I was put in mind if another brief anecdote re assertive language.
About 12 years back, I was working as a delivery and installer of white goods, my Porter was about 10 years my junior. I have to admit at this point I swear, not a lot but I confess. Well the young lad said to me “would you mind not swearing so much, I really don’t like it, it’s making me uncomfortable!”
I admired his confidence speaking to someone 10 years his senior, not knowing how I’d react, but thought nothing more of it.
At the end of the week, he quit, but not because of me, in fact he approached me and said “thank you!”
What for I enquired, not swearing from when I asked you not too.
The thing is, I never made a conscious decision to stop, I wasn’t even aware that I hadn’t sworn until he pointed it out.
Even having read the chimp paradox I do not understand what’d happened.